Night and Day

On May first one of my very best friends in the world, the then Dana Ford – now Mrs. Dana Greene, married the love of her life.  Needless to say it was a beautiful day.  Dana and Mike were surrounded by a village of family and friends that were eager to witness their profession of love for each other – in front of God and in front of the people that love them the most. 

In the pictures that I’ve shared above you see Dana and Mike smiling and getting into the wedding party’s performance of Ray Charles’s Night Time is the Right Time…yes, not only do you have to foot the bill for a wedding you also have to literally entertain your guests nowadays!!! – But I digress…

All of our smiling faces are evidence of the fact that the performance was fun and it was a hit with the crowd, but more importantly Ray Charles’s lyrics were appropriate and right on time.  It was a treat to be Dana’s Maid of Honor because I knew I was standing by her side as she married the man that she had loved night and day for the extent of their courtship. 

Over the years I’ve seen Dana and Mike work together as a real team – loving each other, laughing and dancing together, and most importantly appreciating each other every step of the way – every night and day.   

I wanted to write this post not only to express my love for Dana and Mike – Dr. and Mrs. Greene!!!! – but to also express the importance of loving and/or appreciating the significant other in your life every day and every night…perhaps you’re not ready for “love” yet but appreciating the person in your life that cares about you is deciding to live in a state of grace.  It is signaling to the universe that you appreciate your companion and that you’re thankful that the stars aligned and you met the person that just might be for you.

Listen, I completely understand that we’re not meant to love and appreciate every single person that comes into our life.  If you live long enough there will be several people that you date and eventually you’ll realize that although a person might be cool, they might not be the one for you.  Like the saying goes, people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime…in this post I’m speaking specifically to the people that are in a relationship with a person that they like/love, they’ve got a mutual something going on that feels real and they’ve got a feeling that this person might be the one that’s staying on for a lifetime and I’m saying – don’t take that person for granted.  Having someone in your life that you care about, that also cares for you is a blessing.

Nothing is bothering me more these days than people that I once knew to be single and quite frankly lonely, stumbling upon a relationship in which they find themselves to be happy but choosing to take their significant other for granted…complaining about small things and just being generally unappreciative.  Sometimes small arguments are unavoidable…and I understand that we’re only human, but as best we can, we should make a conscious effort to love the people we’ve invited into our life night and day.

– Much love…have an amazing memorial day weekend!


The Loss of Wisdom

It has been almost a week and I’m finally ready to talk about the fact that I had four – yes four – wisdom teeth pulled last Friday.  The reaction that I get from people when I tell them I had four teeth pulled at one time is a combination of sheer horror and adulation.  However I can’t fathom the alternative…going through the pain of having maybe one or two teeth pulled and dealing with the slow recovery process, only to deal with the anxiety that would come with anticipating the next trip to the oral surgeon.  No, I decided to have all four removed at once, go through the recovery process and never look back.

Recovery has been slow going but fortunately I have not experienced pain…discomfort?  Yes, but absolutely no pain.  This experience has made me realize three things…

1) Anesthesia and pain medication is one of the most amazing things that man conceived.  During my recovery I got plenty of rest and in-between my deep, hydrocodone  induced naps I had flashes of Gone With The Wind, particularly the horrible scenes that depicted confederate soldiers facing amputation and other mind numbingly painful procedures with little to no chloroform available.  The breast exam that my gynecologist puts me through is more uncomfortable than the procedure that I experienced.  The procedure consisted of sitting in a reclining chair, having my blood pressure taken, experiencing the quick prick of a shot (which was then replaced by the anesthesia drip), the doctor asking if I was nervous (ummm, does a bear sh*t in the woods doc??), short breathing tubes in my nose…and a deep la la land sleep.

2)  Food is EXTREMELY important to me…it builds me up (and perhaps plumps me up a bit too) it makes me feel good – it puts a pep in my step.  I need the food that I eat to be an experience, something joyful and purely satisfying…the mushy, liquid diet that I was confined to for approximately five to six days after surgery just made me sad…that’s right, sad.  Several times I found myself in the grips of desperation.  On the third night after surgery I was standing in front of the refrigerator trying to gum and salivate my way through bite size pieces of Manny & Olga’s meat lovers pizza.  What kind of cruel person orders meat lovers pizza when they know there’s a person on the premise who has been rendered orally challenged???  That person will remain nameless…yes, my mouth ached horribly the next morning but I was willing to suffer for my kryptonite!

3) A good mother is one of the most special things in the entire world (next to a good father).  Yes folks, my mother stood by me like a champ.  She made me smoothies, fixed me soup, potatoes, gave me my meds, hot and cold compresses…it’s nice to know that no matter how old I get and no matter how big this cold world might be – I can always come home.  

Here’s to anesthesia, kryptonite, and MOMS 🙂