Recently I’ve had several conversations with people who are in the midst of relationship problems, in the process of getting past a relationship that they’ve tried to make work, or simply trying to get over that “one” person they can’t seem to shake from memory. It seems that the common theme with many is wanting what they seemingly can’t have.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, and expecting different results…as it relates to wanting what we can’t or shouldn’t have, the definition of insanity has been flicking on and off in my mind.
Most likely we’re all familiar with the definition of insanity, but it doesn’t really sink in until you find yourself in some sort of “insane” pattern – that is, finding yourself in a pattern that you can’t seem to break with an individual. I’m so very curious about these patterns – why do we so often find ourselves in the pursuit of what is so clearly feudal to the majority of people, but so very real to us?
Perhaps there’s conflict because in the very same breath that we were given the definition of insanity, we were told that if at first you don’t succeed to try, try again…to add insult to injury, we were also told the story of the road less traveled – you know the story…I believe it was Robert Frost who wrote that he’d taken the road less traveled, and that had made all of the difference in the world.
Maybe taking the road less traveled isn’t the same as doing the same thing over, and over again – but taking the road less traveled and repeating the same actions over and over speak to some level of resilience…doesn’t it? They both speak to the determination to NOT take the easier path…because, as they say, nothing worth having is easy.
DS Download: There’s that constant drive in us to get what we want, and how dare we give up on what we want – isn’t that un-American? Perhaps, at the end of the day, after all of the sayings about insanity, what’s worth having, and the road less traveled, Kenny Rogers said it best when he said you gotta know when to hold ‘em and know when to fold ‘em…
At this moment I’m tempted to say – damn the sayings and the American ethos to be triumphant in the face of ones obstacles…I guess it all comes down to the person, the place, and the timing of a situation. Hopefully our instincts will tell us how long we should fight, and they will tug at as when it’s time to walk away.
We’re given no instruction manual for living this life and with that we are bound to have hiccups. I guess the wish is that we won’t waste too much time in the figuring out, leaving plenty of time for us to prosper from the lessons learned from our missteps. Here’s to the journey, and the safe and sane arrival on the other side.